Inside the article: With 2021 around the corner, use this opportunity of starting over to prioritize yourself this coming year. Learn about ways to set realistic and achievable goals, and keep scrolling for some ideas for New Year’s resolutions for moms if you’re stuck.
Bring on 2021!
It’s amusing (and mildly traumatizing) to think back to the end of 2019. I remember reading all kinds of Facebook posts and Instagram stories raving about how 2019 was “so terrible” and how 2020 was going to be “our year.” And while 2019 was such a wonderful year for me personally with having our first baby, I also remember looking forward to a new year of travels, family time, and meeting new personal goals.
Oh, if only we knew.
Now, 2021 is knocking at our door, and I’m finding myself in a headspace of motivation and optimism. Things are far from “normal,” but I do feel that it’s possible for all of us to make the most of the opportunity to start over in a sense.
As a mom, specifically a mom who was forced into stay-at-home mom territory during the pandemic, I’m finding the urge to get back into some of the things I used to love. I also now see the importance of prioritizing my own needs and desires, and how detrimental it can be to let those things go. You too?
Let’s chat about some New Year’s resolutions for moms!
One of the biggest challenges with goal setting is narrowing down your topic. I see so many individuals who say they want to get healthier, spend more time outside, or make more money. While these are great goals, they are hard to measure in the way they are set.
If you want to “get healthier,” perhaps decide what you mean by healthy. Does this entail losing weight? Would you like to incorporate more vegetables into your diet? Could your body benefit from more daily movement?
Another factor that is important to note is that your goal should be attainable. If I workout once a week by taking a walk, I shouldn’t strive to increase my frequency to 5 days a week of running 3+ miles/day. Ask yourself: what is one step up from where I am now?
Finally, focus on your “why.” I know, I know. This is a cliché, but if you don’t know why you have selected a goal, it’s going to be hard to feel motivated to achieve it. Why do you want to get healthier? Some possible answers: to feel better physically, to improve my mental health, or to increase confidence.
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Resolution Ideas for Moms
As a mom, it can feel hard to know what you’d like to change coming into a new year. Sometimes, it feels like prioritizing yourself is impossible when caring for little humans. Or adding something feels like more of a chore than a good idea.
Remember when we talked about being realistic with our goals? Spend the rest of the year reflecting on what you really need and want to change, add, or stop doing.
Feeling stuck? Here are a few ideas for some New Year’s resolutions for moms in 2021.
- Meet up with friends at least once per month. As a self-proclaimed introvert, carving out of my precious solo time to see other people can feel like a chore. However, not once have I ever regretted making the effort to spend time with friends. It’s so easy to isolate as a mom, but having some “adult time” with your girlfriends can be so fulfilling. Challenge: If this is something you already do, try finding a new social avenue to connect with other moms. I go to Fit4Mom classes, and they’re an amazing way to build a mom crew and exercise at the same time!
- Prioritize more time for yourself. By the time my son goes to bed, I’ve been with him for nearly 12 hours (minus naps, of course). That’s a lot of time being needed! Prioritize your own needs by asking for someone else to watch your little one(s) and do what you want to do. Whether that’s going to the store alone or reading a book in bed, carve out time to honor what you need. Challenge: Find a sitter or family member to watch the kids and take a whole day for yourself every month or so. Partner participation optional. 😉
3. Stop the negative self-talk. It’s so easy to be complacent about the way we speak to ourselves. Whether your self-talk relates to your mom skills or not, recognizing that this self-talk is harmful is the first step. Make a list of phrases you often say to yourself (my most common is “you are so stupid”), and think of a new phrase to say to yourself to argue the thought. An example could be: it’s ok, you made a mistake, just do better next time. Challenge: Make an appointment with a therapist! This is the year to focus on your mental health, mama.
4. Say “no” to more things. Some weeks, my schedule looks truly frightening. I can barely come up for air! Saying no can be uncomfortable, but it’s vital to maintaining your sanity. Maybe this week isn’t a good week to shop for new eyeglass frames with your mom, but offer an alternative time that works for you. Or just say no altogether! It’s all ok. 🙂 Challenge: Clear one activity permanently from your schedule. Feeling emburdened by your weekly book club meetings? Maybe it’s time to take a break for a bit.
5. Pick up an old hobby. Some of my pre-baby hobbies feel a little impossible now. Babies don’t tend to do well on the tennis court! Even though your old hobby might look different in the present, find a way to tap back into what you loved about it. Were you a runner before baby? Snag a used jogging stroller and bring baby with you! Into photography? Use your baby as a model. Challenge: Carve out time occasionally to really experience your old hobby. For me, that might be getting a babysitter so my husband and I can go to the courts. Just because it’s not as often doesn’t mean it needs to be never!
Start the New Year Right!
Get to brainstorming, mama! What is something you want to add this new year?